It’s been so infuriating seeing social media’s outrage at the fact that Chrissy Teigen and John Legend went out to dinner, without their daughter, just under two weeks after her birth.
I couldn’t believe the reaction. I don’t get it! Two parents decided to go out and enjoy each other’s company, without their child, and all of a sudden they’re the worst people to walk this planet?
Did they leave the child at home, on her own, to look after herself? No.
Did they leave their pet dog in charge of her? No.
Did they leave their child in the care of an adult they know and trust? Yes.
Was their child safe? Yes.
Then what’s the big deal? Why is everyone so quick to judge (read, attack) and enforce their ideals on others?
It seems that when it comes to parenting many people feel it is OK to pass comment on how “badly” others are doing it.
Parents go out without their one week old baby – Bad decision.
Parents go out with their one week old baby – Bad decision.
Parents haven’t left the house with their one week old baby – Bad decision.
Parents go on holiday without their baby – Bad decision.
Parents take their kids on every holiday with them – Bad decision.
Kids are in a strict routine – Bad decision.
Kids have no routine – Bad decision.
A woman goes back to work – Bad decision.
A woman stays at home – Bad decision.
A man goes back to work – Bad decision.
A man stays at home – Bad decision.
Parents decide to have one child – Bad decision.
Parents decide to have more than one child – Bad decision.
And the list goes on and on.
Bad decision is not what should follow those statements. At the end of each statement, it should read, GOOD DECISION! Why? Because it is no-one else’s business how you choose to live as a family (unless it causes the child harm). Whatever decision you make should be based on what works best for you and your family, as when it comes to parenting, there is no one size fits all solution (even though that’s what the parenting books would have us believing).
So how’s about we try something new? Let’s stop judging others. Instead, let’s start supporting each other because, let me tell you (as a second time new parent), that’s what we all really need!