It’s been so infuriating seeing social media’s outrage at the fact that Kylie Jenner went to Coachella. Apparently, this makes her the worst person ever! Her crime? She gave birth a couple of months ago, so supposedly, this means she stopped being a human being and she shouldn’t have any notions of enjoying herself and not being by her baby’s side 24/7.
I can’t believe this reaction. I just don’t get it! A mother has decided to go out and enjoy herself, without her child, and all of a sudden she’s the worst person ever?
Did she leave the child at home, on her own, to look after herself? No.
Did she leave her pet dog in charge of her? No.
Did she leave their child in the care of an adult she knows and trust? Yes.
Was her child safe? Yes.
Then what’s the big deal? Why is everyone so quick to judge (read, attack) and enforce their ideals on others?
It seems that when it comes to parenting many people feel it is OK to pass comment on how “badly” others are doing it.
Parents go out without their baby – Bad decision.
Parents go out with their baby – Bad decision.
Parents haven’t left the house with their baby – Bad decision.
Parents go on holiday without their baby – Bad decision.
Parents take their kids on every holiday with them – Bad decision.
Kids are in a strict routine – Bad decision.
Kids have no routine – Bad decision.
A woman goes back to work – Bad decision.
A woman stays at home – Bad decision.
A man goes back to work – Bad decision.
A man stays at home – Bad decision.
Parents decide to have one child – Bad decision.
Parents decide to have more than one child – Bad decision.
And the list goes on and on.
Bad decision is not what should follow those statements. At the end of each statement, it should read, GOOD DECISION! Why? Because it is no-one else’s business how you choose to live as a family (unless it causes the child harm). Whatever decision you make should be based on what works best for you and your family, as when it comes to parenting, there is no one size fits all solution (even though that’s what the parenting books would have us believing).
So how’s about we try something new? Let’s stop judging others. Instead, let’s start supporting each other because that’s what we all really need!