Why So Quick To Shame?

It’s been so infuriating seeing social media’s outrage at the fact that Kylie Jenner went to Coachella. Apparently, this makes her the worst person ever! Her crime? She gave birth a couple of months ago, so supposedly, this means she stopped being a human being and she shouldn’t have any notions of enjoying herself and not being by her baby’s side 24/7.

I can’t believe this reaction. I just don’t get it! A mother has decided to go out and enjoy herself, without her child, and all of a sudden she’s the worst person ever?

Did she leave the child at home, on her own, to look after herself? No.

Did she leave her pet dog in charge of her? No.

Did she leave their child in the care of an adult she knows and trust? Yes.

Was her child safe? Yes.

Then what’s the big deal? Why is everyone so quick to judge (read, attack) and enforce their ideals on others?

It seems that when it comes to parenting many people feel it is OK to pass comment on how “badly” others are doing it.

Parents go out without their  baby – Bad decision.

Parents go out with their baby – Bad decision.

Parents haven’t left the house with their baby – Bad decision.

Parents go on holiday without their baby – Bad decision.

Parents take their kids on every holiday with them – Bad decision.

Kids are in a strict routine –  Bad decision.

Kids have no routine – Bad decision.

A woman goes back to work – Bad decision.

A woman stays at home – Bad decision.

A man goes back to work – Bad decision.

A man stays at home – Bad decision.

Parents decide to have one child – Bad decision.

Parents decide to have more than one child – Bad decision.

And the list goes on and on.

Bad decision is not what should follow those statements. At the end of each statement, it should read, GOOD DECISION! Why? Because it is no-one else’s business how you choose to live as a family (unless it causes the child harm). Whatever decision you make should be based on what works best for you and your family, as when it comes to parenting, there is no one size fits all solution (even though that’s what the parenting books would have us believing).

So how’s about we try something new? Let’s stop judging others. Instead, let’s start supporting each other because that’s what we all really need!

About The Bellissimo Files

Hi, I’m Sarina Bellissimo and this is the place I come to indulge in my love of all things entertainment. I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t fascinated by all things Hollywood/showbiz. I blame my parents! As a child my mum used to force me to watch old Elvis Presley films with her, and both my mum & dad would take my brothers and I to the Drive-In to watch the latest films (this is where my love for ROCKY began!). When not watching movies, I was trying to figure out ways to pull the back off the TV so I could somehow get into it and be a part of all the action on the screen! This blog isn’t a place that revels in gossip and negativity. It’s a place where entertainment is celebrated. That said, this is a place you can turn to for honesty. Honesty and criticism don’t always mean attacks. I choose to criticise the piece of work but not the person and I acknowledge that just because I don’t like something, it doesn’t mean someone else won’t. Here you’ll find interviews with some of the biggest names in the world of Entertainment, reviews, breaking news and my very own musings. Away from The Bellissimo Files, you can find me on Spin 1038 on Saturdays, between 1pm and 3pm,presenting Plan B. There’s celebrity interviews, entertainment news, the low down on the must see movies and music releases of the week, the ultimate guide to what’s on where in the city, as well as masterclasses with experts on standby to answer listeners’ questions. I also appear on TV3’s “Elaine” panel, talk movies on “Ireland AM” and you can sometimes hear me filling in on Moncrieff’s “Movies and Booze “(Newstalk) The Bellissimo Files is constantly evolving. Files (topics) will be added or deleted as time goes on. Feel free to read, watch, comment, share, and make suggestions for what you would like to see on the site. Sarina
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