Why So Quick To Shame?

It’s been so infuriating seeing social media’s outrage at the fact that Kylie Jenner went to Coachella. Apparently, this makes her the worst person ever! Her crime? She gave birth a couple of months ago, so supposedly, this means she stopped being a human being and she shouldn’t have any notions of enjoying herself and not being by her baby’s side 24/7.

I can’t believe this reaction. I just don’t get it! A mother has decided to go out and enjoy herself, without her child, and all of a sudden she’s the worst person ever?

Did she leave the child at home, on her own, to look after herself? No.

Did she leave her pet dog in charge of her? No.

Did she leave their child in the care of an adult she knows and trust? Yes.

Was her child safe? Yes.

Then what’s the big deal? Why is everyone so quick to judge (read, attack) and enforce their ideals on others?

It seems that when it comes to parenting many people feel it is OK to pass comment on how “badly” others are doing it.

Parents go out without their  baby – Bad decision.

Parents go out with their baby – Bad decision.

Parents haven’t left the house with their baby – Bad decision.

Parents go on holiday without their baby – Bad decision.

Parents take their kids on every holiday with them – Bad decision.

Kids are in a strict routine –  Bad decision.

Kids have no routine – Bad decision.

A woman goes back to work – Bad decision.

A woman stays at home – Bad decision.

A man goes back to work – Bad decision.

A man stays at home – Bad decision.

Parents decide to have one child – Bad decision.

Parents decide to have more than one child – Bad decision.

And the list goes on and on.

Bad decision is not what should follow those statements. At the end of each statement, it should read, GOOD DECISION! Why? Because it is no-one else’s business how you choose to live as a family (unless it causes the child harm). Whatever decision you make should be based on what works best for you and your family, as when it comes to parenting, there is no one size fits all solution (even though that’s what the parenting books would have us believing).

So how’s about we try something new? Let’s stop judging others. Instead, let’s start supporting each other because that’s what we all really need!

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“What Is It That I Want?” – Malin Akerman Talks “Rampage”, “Billions” and the Importance of That Question

Thanks to “Rampage”, for the first time in her career, we get to see Malin Ackerman play the villain on screen.

Malin tells me how much she loved being the “baddie”, the piece of advice that changed her life, why she loves being a part of the TV show, “Billions”, and if given the opportunity, who she would love to interview

“Rampage” is in cinemas now.

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“We Want To Inspire Young People To Just Be Themselves And Embrace The Light From Within” – Storm Reid & Ava DuVernay

A Wrinkle in Time tells the story of Meg Murray (Storm Reid), her brother Charles Wallace (Deric McCabe) and their friend Calvin (Levi Miller) who, with the help of the peculiar Mrs. W’s (Oprah Winfrey, Reese Witherspoon and Mindy Kaling), travel through space and time in order to find her missing father.

I recently caught up with the film’s Director, Ava DuVernay and star, Storm Reid (Meg Murray).

Ava has called this film her love letter to young people, between the ages of 7 – 14 because this age is the “really tender time in life where you are trying to figure out who you are and your place in the world – and, you know, we’re in a pretty messy world right now. So, to be able to talk to young people about the light inside them and try to plant a seed and try to cultivate that – how to be a good person, be kind to people, what matters … and giving them a little bit of beauty and spectacle while we tell those lessons was my goal”

Oprah Winfrey (Mrs Which) has said that “Storm will become to this generation what Judy Garland’s Dorothy was to previous generations.” That’s a massive statement but Storm takes it all in her stride. “It’s so heart warming to have somebody who is so loving, so admired and talented to say something like that about you is so cool. I’m glad I got this opportunity to be around Miss Ava, Miss Reece, Miss Mindy, Miss Oprah and get to learn from them and basically the opportunity to inspire a lot of young people to just be themselves and embrace the light from within themselves”.

This film is all about embracing your talents and being true to yourself. Ava was a successful movie publicist but at 32, she decided to walk away from that and pursue her dream of being a film maker. She says, “I think it’s a testament that you don’t have to stay where you are. You know I was happy in one job but I had a dream to do something else. I didn’t go to film school. I didn’t have the kind of opportunities that many of my counterparts had so I just created a way for myself and so I hope that people, whatever they are doing, can just see me as someone who pursued something that they loved at an older age and was still able to live her dream, and hopefully that will inspire people”.

What did Storm learn about her potential as a result of working on this film? “Coming off of the film I’d say that Meg and I grew up together, because I became more confident and I realised that I can abe the light, not only for myself but for the people around me, and I could use that light to save the world or at least make a change in the world. Of course I already knew that and that was already instilled in me by family and my mother but I just came off it more confident and more self sufficient.”

How do Storm and Ava follow this magical working experience, “(We)I just keep working and thank goodness that we get to do what we love, so yeah, how do you follow it? Just keep going.”

Keep going they wiil. Ava has just signed on to direct a feature films based on the DC Comic Book Series, The New God, and Storm is currently filming Only You, alongside David Oyelowo. I can not wait to see what they bring us next but for now we can all marvel in their latest collaboration, “A Wrinkle in Time” as it is in cinemas now!

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Movie Review: “A Wrinkle In Time”

Dear Ava,

After watching “A Wrinkle In Time”, your beautiful “love letter to young people”, I felt compelled to send you a thank you letter (Yes I know, I am no longer a young person but I wanted to let you know that your love letter to young people speaks to people of all ages).

Thank you for making my heart burst with joy and sing.

Thank you for making a film that shouts that each and every person is valuable, difference is good and that they are enough.  “Do  you realise how many events and choices had to occur in the universes leading to the making of you. Just exactly the way you are?”  (Mrs. Which to Meg)

Thank  you for pushing us outside of our comfort zones and for pushing yourself – thank you for having the courage to make this film.  “We can’t take credit for our talents. It’s what we do with them.” (Mrs. Whatsit) What you did with your talent in this film is wonderful. I am not denying there were some flaws but even a gorgeous diamond has its flaws and that’s not reason enough not to enjoy the sparkle or its beauty.

Thank you for allowing us to feel the fear but also encouraging us to do something “It’s OK to fear the answers but you can’t avoid them” (Happy Medium)

Thank you for reawakening and re-igniting the light in my heart that should be ablaze in all of our hearts. Thank you for inspiring me.

To paraphrase one of the lines from the film, “All of those willing to face the darkness and bring the best of themselves to the light for the world, they are Warriors on Earth” You Ms Ava DuVernay are a Warrior. Thank you so much for shining brightly, never dulling your sparkle and encouraging all of us to do the same. There can never be too much sparkle/light in this world and together, with love, courage, and hope we can overcome the darkness.

In gratitude, love and light,
Sarina

** “A Wrinkle In Time” is in Irish cinemas on Friday 23rd March.

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“Oh f*&k, don’t make me do this, Garth” – Why Rooney Mara wanted to run from “Mary Magdalene”

Garth Davis and Rooney Mara re-team to tell the untold story of Mary Magdalene.

Garth was “shocked that this story has never been told before”. When he presented the idea to Rooney, her first response was “Oh fuck – don’t make me do this Garth!”

Although initially overwhelmed by the task, Rooney was also “compelled to right the wrong of her story being mistold all these years”.

Now that the film is complete, Garth hopes that “this film brings about conversation and gives women more avenues to be heard within places of faith but also to encourage everybody to kind of remind them that the kingdom is within them and that through unconditional love we can make a real impact in the world.”

Watch the full interview below, where Garth and Rooney also share how the cast would unwind after a tough day of filming, and talk about their next project.

“Mary Magdalene” is in Irish cinemas now

 

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David Oyelowo – “Only do it if it’s the only thing in the world you want to do”

David Oyelowo stars alongside Charlize Theron and Joel Egerton in “Gringo”, in a role like no other we’ve seen him do before.

I caught up with David to talk about his new film and why it was important to him to help shape the character.

He also shared why he decided to leave his comfortable life in England to pursue his dream career in Hollywood; how he back himself;  how he got through the tough times and; David had some great advice when it comes to choosing your career.

“Gringo” is in Irish cinemas now.

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Allison Janney – “People didn’t know what to do with me”

After what feels like forever, finally Irish audiences can check out Allison Janney and Margot Robbie’s oscar worthy performances in “I, Tonya” as it hits our cinemas today.

Recently I caught up with the brilliant Allison Janney, who has been scooping up all the awards for her portrayal of Harding’s mum, LaVona Golden.

She shared with me her excitement of being nominated for an Oscar, what she’s looking forward to most in the lead up to the event and on the night itself, and, why like Tonya, she had to fight to be herself.

“I, Tonya” is in Irish cinemas now.

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